Capable

          "You must.". "You should.". "You have to."; all things we've all heard about various aspects of life and the living of it. I've personally heard these responses on many things and while I understand there is truth in these approaches, I notice something else: we don't encourage. Yes, tell the truth. Yes, sometimes we require getting such a response to various matters (or being the one GIVING them). Yet here we don't always take the time to think through a matter as we should and ask a vital question, "What if someone doesn't believe they are capable of doing ________?". Notice how I said BELIEVE AND NOT FEEL.

             This doesn't mean there will not be a time for "tough love ", but discernment must be in order also, along with empathy (notice I didn't say sympathy, they are similar, yet not the same). We can all "call things out", express those things that "shake up our world", but if this is ALL we do, what good is this if someone doesn’t know their capability within a reasonable explanation for this (I wasn't taught that. It wasn't modeled for me. Etc.)? 

               I will be clear here and also say this DOESN'T support bad behavior, actions, or any sort of depravity or lack of righteousness; it ONLY gives a more thorough and constructive approach toward that which needs to be addressed. If we tear down and fail to teach how to build, what good is there in that? I can be the worst in this at times I must admit, but I'm learning to be more capable with this. Let's learn together, shall we? 

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